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Hi guys need to rant here Marc has decided he is wanting to join the army i am against it i dont want my lad in the army he is going to a presentation next wk and maybe down south for a 5 day course I DONT WANT HIM TO!!!! i know i have to support and respect what he wants but i dont want to.

The army officer or recruiter or whatever was you get this amount of pay, this amount of holidays etc etc painted a rosy picture thats not the case.

Sorry but not coping with this!!!!!

have you sat marc down and told him how you feel lorz , maybe you can tell him your worries over him joining up ,

Aww hun I know exactly where you are coming from............... the only difference with my situ is that Kyle is going to army college first in September.

He has been in the cadets and we have noticed such a change in his whole attitude since joining. He is away this week on a Yorkshire Warrior Insight Course where he will get a feel for army life.

As a mum it is part of our job to worry over our kids. All I can suggest is what Sue has said, have a look at army website etc and try and get some background knowledge yourself. A lot I admit is propaganda and hard sell but it may help you to assess how you feel but most of all talk to Marc.

What corps has he signed up for? Maybe you could get more info about what he is going to be doing from there.

I'm sure Shell would be able to help you too. I am worried about Kyle going into the Army we have advised him to our best ability but at the end of the day it is his decision and he has to live with that but it doesnt stop the worry or heartaches from a mum

A bit of extra info hun when applying it takes a lot of interviews medical and physical exams etc before you become accepted. Marc may get fed up with the long windedness of it all or he may find he cannot cope with the physical training aspects of it all. Just a thought hun.

Its taken Kyle a lot of travelling for medicals and physical training to get accepted. He hated his time in Scotland but he was so committed he kept at it. There is still time for Marc to change his mind and quite a lot can happen in between. Hope it all helps.

Thanks guys!!! Xx

thinking of you Lorz. Sorry cant give you any advice but can understand kids are a constant worry.
I hope talking with marc will help you

Aww hun

I dont know how your lad is but my daughter would of been hard to talk out of anything if she had her mind set on doing something, but Sue and Suzie brought up some good advice, if you can sit him down like Sue said and chat some of it may stick in his mind, by the time Suzie has said it takes he may have distractions which makes going in not so attractive. Thats basically all I can add hun

Was having a bad day yesterday but got my head back on back to normal me thankfuly hate feeling like that doesnt happen very often but hey if he is going to do it i cant stop him and i will support him 100% but will see what happens and as you say its a long process so will be there for him its all i can do.

Thanks for all your comments

Glad you're feeling better today hun It is a huge step they take by joining the Army and worrying for family too Your supporting him 100% will strengthen your relationship with him in the long term
If you need to rant or rave you know we are all here for you hun

hope everything works out for you both hunny

Lorz wrote:

Hi guys need to rant here Marc has decided he is wanting to join the army i am against it i dont want my lad in the army he is going to a presentation next wk and maybe down south for a 5 day course I DONT WANT HIM TO!!!! i know i have to support and respect what he wants but i dont want to.

The army officer or recruiter or whatever was you get this amount of pay, this amount of holidays etc etc painted a rosy picture thats not the case.

Sorry but not coping with this!!!!!

bless you hun

i can totally understand how youre feeling ... ive always said that i wouldnt want either of my girls joining the army .. my mum always said the same about my brother too...but he went ahead and did it anyway ... if your son is anything like my brother then the more you protest, the more determined he will be

my neice is in the final stages of joining up and as suzie says... its a long process and he may get bored with it ...
and if he does get through.... he may not even want to complete his basic training ....my friends son didnt ....he came home halfway through lol

but you are right in saying that the recruitment officer does paint a rosy picture ... but his basic training will tell him a different tale

dont let it get you down hun ..